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Last time, I discussed SAY NO TO JAN AND JANU STUFFS??? BUT WHY?, thanks for your appreciation & valuable feedback.
Now, here the topic is again interesting but considering another group of people(boys or girls) who are well enough to demotivate us in pursuing our challenges, targets or goals and I also expereinced such kind of people who really put bad remarks or critics for no good reason but they all could not let me down or any down once you start pursuing your passion or milestone but unfortunately many people do get hurt too badly by such kind of people and thus they stop dong or chasing their passions or targets just because of such ridiculous group of people or khalas.
As usual first check out the normal tags that you hear from the people when you do something good or smashing so some of the people in majority become the KHALA to find out the errs and lacking than to focus on the achievement or the content where they themselves have not even contributed much for their society in country. The tags or phrases are:
“O bhai bus pakao mat, bs bs chup hjao hmai pata hai how u got the position, kis kis k uthao gay…! suno zara ye banaingay Pakistan ko aik khush hal mulk apna to hal thek kia nai mulk ka kia karengay, He is making us fool huh!, Is he the only person to take whole responsibility, aur koi kam nai hai,etc “
These sort of tags or teases you must have heard around at any stage of your life, their main job is to just critic for no good reason, you may call it as a piece of jealousy and tenderness that they can’t cop. They can neither do the GOOD nor they want anyone to do something good. For them, we may call it as, “Jo kuch nai kartay wo bs MUU k fire hy martay hain, wo jo kam karna chahatay hn wo chup chap apna kam kar jatay hain”. These people may seem to you well-dressed or well educated but they possess narrow thoughts and ideas which linger them to be in just small circle. The example below will completely change your mind to handle such people or KHALAs around you.
The lonely Frog’s success Story:
There were frogs by the river, challenged by the near-by birds to jump over the 10ft high wall, the frog with their over confidence accepted the challenge and divided in the number of 100 respectively. So, it was decided that first the 100 birds will cross the hurdle, so very simply,they did it with their flying skills but the real challenge alarmed for frogs, they asked frogs to give up and concede this match but frogs denied and started to take their chances, unfortunately, in first phase 50 frogs struck straight to the wall and push down by seeing the fear of FAILURE. Again, the leader of birds asked them to GIVE UP, but frogs denied, they continued to try but still failed up to 99. This was the do or die situation for the frogs and on the other side, it was the time for the near winning moments of birds to win the challenge.
The last frog was standing far away alone and was depth in great thoughts, they just whistled him to wake him up from his long thoughts and waved him to jump it all. All of sudden, he used his leaping skills and crossed/jumped the wall. The moment was full of surprise for all, the frogs were at the near gate of FAILURE where the birds were about to WIN the challenge but just because of ONE FROG, all conditions changed and frogs won the challenge.
The company of birds started to enjoy where the birds started to group near that winning FROG standing near that wall. They were asking all together with different inspiring and critic remarks, “Wow,How you did that!?, Hey! You JUST fooled us!, How you could beat us?, tell us how you have done!,etc “but that frog was just listening and starring their faces. When the pressure grew and he didnt respond so they started to run thru the agony, in that very moment, the team leader of frogs came to them and said, “Hey, You all there, Don’t Shout, Listen to me! Don’t blame him, He just can’t listen, He is DEAF”, this answer made all birds speechless and ashamed, also it yields big lessons for us. Once you have the objective in your mind, just chase, don’t care what people say, they are meant to say and will be saying it all, all you got to do is to focus that’s it!!!
So, this story can awake that instinct in you which can really motivate you when you begin with something new, be deaf when they lower your morale, confidence and motivation.
The moral of the discussion is that there are some best ways to cop such people or KHALAs in our society:
1.Never pay attention to their thoughts and ideas plus Keep adequate distance from them, they won’t influence you that much
2.You must possess good answers to shut them up OR be the DEAF FROG to avoid listening them
3.If you are simple,keeping no answer, just answer, “LIKEWISE”, it will simply return their every accuse to them
4.Be motivated and confident that you are doing for all not for them
5.Be sure, tomorrow they will be around you to appreciate you
6.Keep yourself motivated with a quote, “If people are jealous from you, be glad because you have that instinct that they done have”
7.Enjoy their critics in contrast with the Albert Einstein quote, “I am thankful to all those who said NO to because their every NO pushed me to do it all alone”
8. Always welcome the critics of those who provide you constructive opinions and they must have something remarkable in their lives to motivate.
9. Don’t even pay heed to those who just criticize for just criticism
10. Being a Critic & Umpire are very different persons. Be advised, the best critic can never be pessimist, he is always there to motivate personally not publicly.
M. BILAL SHAIKH 