Don’t panic! please… – M. Bilal Shaikh – Audio Vine in Urdu/Hindi – 2016

M. Bilal Shaikh
Speaker l Trainer l Writer

 

 

How to think positive in tough times – M. Bilal Shaikh – Audio Vine in Urdu/Hindi – 2016

 

M. Bilal Shaikh
Speaker l Trainer l Writer

 

Is it facebook or Fakebook?

Is it facebook or Fakebook?
Facebook has deteriorated our life styles and caged our mindsets!

 

The Cause and Effect

Almost every individual in this global village aged between 12-42 years old struggles between balancing his life in reality and at social media. Somehow, it is true that “Logout is the hardest button to click”.  We sit on the same floor but we remain in other worlds, we share parties and gathering together but we keep on using our cell phones, we visit natural sights and places but rather to feel it we get engaged in taking pictures and sharing them immediately on facebook so that others will come to know so they may either like or ignore. Rather doing something good for people, we get more engaged in colors of self-image or more like selfishness. Relationships, Life Style, Education, Psychology, Physiology and Motivation is badly disturbed by excessive usage of Facebook in recent time.

80% people confess that excessive usage of facebook impacts on relationships as well. Many couples’ engagements, marriages have been effected or broken due to pretending what are they are not or showing their inner mindset to others. It is also observed in many cases that people really don’t want to prolong with you if you un-friend them in any relationship.

It seems that we have prioritized the facebook more than our personal matters. It is not necessary to share everything on facebook as well as what your friend is up to, causing less love and more hate, less unity and more jealousy. I also learned that many people use facebook to kill time which has significant worth in life which shows that either they are broken, rotten or just free (No vision for life).

Like others, I have been influenced by this flare of facebook in past. In this blog, I have discussed issues, causes, treatment and precaution to keep a good balancing life, discovering yourself and being helpful for others than to ruin it in the trance of facebooking only.

 

Lessons from the Recent Past

I didn’t come to know about my other skills and instincts which were fading away if I hadn’t limited or abandoned facebook or boycott social media in recent time. Abandoning or less or justified usage of facebook has brought massive results overall in my life. I have learned my lessons and as social responsibility, I would like to share with all to propagate the word.

Well, in order to learn and diagnose why sometimes we are so lethargic and disoriented from actual vision of life, we really have to figure out what is wrong that causing hiatus in our personal and professional development by giving time and commitment to ourselves. I tried to treat and deal with it, started last year where the subject was I and other friends.
“If you can’t control your addiction of facebooking, it will lead you to certain psychological and physiological conditions i.e. personality disorder, low self esteem, complexity, severe health conditions, mood swings, etc”.
Since, I had over burdened routine and life style due to work, job, and friends circle with spending too much time on facebook and other social platforms. Thus, I usually used to say that 24 hours were quite less for me in execution of quality life and work so the solution was either I had to stretch 24 hours to 36 hours or improve my lifestyle.

It is known that in a day, average person spends 3-4 hours/day minimum on social media with or without purpose where keeping conversation in FB Messenger as well as Whatsapp in parallel. Anyways, the burden was so hot that I had to give up temporarily from all social media including Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for 1 month. Eventually, here the twist began, the day I left these platforms, the first thing I felt, it was like, “Free from massive burden”, my mind was relaxed and I was able to carry out my tasks, job and other social works more effectively. 24 hours were quite enough for me.

After 1 month observation of abandoning FB, I experienced positive change and I was happy with it but I thought to get connected with social world as one cannot lag behind in this fast moving era. So I activated it again, I was more careful in starting but within weeks, the FB had me again with almost old same routine. I am certain that it must have been happening to many people as facebook is so interactive and vast that it consumes much time.

After struggling with it for a month, I did the same, deactivated it again and this practice kept on going for at least 2 or 3 times. But this whole process left me to understand many things and need of being on social media all the time. It was like massive experience and worth learning for me so if we really want to make words into actions, at least we will have to limit our social platforms, otherwise our words will be just words!
“The usage of facebook without a concrete purpose is similar to taking medication without any direction of doctors, causing massive poison in body, sometimes it is irrecoverable”.

 

The Diagnosis & Operation

So what was the treatment? The treatment was lying within me; I asked myself few questions that everybody must ask to diagnose the issue:
a) How was my life when I was not using facebook?
b) Am I excessively indulged into FB world? If so, is there any need of it?
c) What’s my purpose or objective of using it? Professional or Business need or Chatting or Cheating.
d) Am I beneficial for the society and people on FB?
e) Do I feel happier to share things on facebook than sharing it in real time with my family and friends?
f) Do I really need to be connected all the time to the facebook or social media?
g) How many true friends I have earned, may be more than 500+ on social media but in reality?
h) Is it necessary to share everything on facebook, If so why?
i) Is it necessary to know everything (Stalking) about our friends by continuously looking into their profiles? If so why?
j) What if I spent same time in swimming, exercise, writing, studying or else, what benefits I could get?
k) What I exactly feel by seeing other successes and achievements, am I becoming victim of low self esteem and inferior complex or learning from them or being more jealous of what they have earned?
l) Do I really care about liking or commenting on friends’ achievements or events or I scroll it down, If so what does it exactly mean to me?
m) With continuous usage of facebook, what recent successes I have made in real world?

The  Treatment & Precautions

There are certain parameters if an individual follows, he may have good control over his routine and can initiate good life style. Also we have to understand that there are people who take advantage from fb in form of setting up business and other forums but in both cases, mediocre and safe usage is essential.

1. If there is no necessary need, uninstall fb from either your cell phones or laptop. Because keeping installed on both platforms engages you for so long. I personally manage my fb works only by laptop, uninstalling from cell phone has focused me to do some productive and good work like drafting this blog 🙂

2. For a common man who uses FB, should limit its usage by keeping hawk eyes on time. 1 hour is far enough in a day if it’s divided in 2 times of checking (morning & night)

3. Unlike and leave all unnecessary pages and group pages, you must be more concerned about yourself and what’s going on in your life. Rather following celebrity, start becoming a celebrity secondly, be the news than to read news.

4. Limit your friends on facebook, add only those to whom you know or trust because the more people you add, more you will be wandering to know. Time is money, use it wisely.

5. Rather poking and stalking into other profiles, focus on your profile, improve and develop in more meaning colors for yourself and for others. Be the helpful tool for society than to be a burden.

6. One of the smart usage of FB is serving others with right causes i.e. education, awareness campaigns, blogging, etc. Do something that gets positive and productive within yourself. Help people around you as it doesn’t need a reason to help anyone.

7. Start planning of virtual business via FB, FB is itself an online and virtual business, many brands have promoted their sales and profits via Fb so why don’t we take advantage of it. Smart brains take maximum advantage from free shops.

8. We must not forget that facebook was designed to connect with loved ones and old friends who are far away not in next room, few steps away or in offices. Care about your personal relations than your social world.
9. It is good to play physical games or sports or gym than to play games on consoles and Apps. Be fit, smart and productive for society.

10. Expand your vision of life, keeping yourself with people who believe in personal leadership, self development and have widened vision of life.

11. And in last, if you feel burdened, stressed and messed up, don’t forget there is always a choice to take a break either isolating or deactivating your FB Account and when you get better, you can activate it. Care about your health first!

Again, it is entirely upon you how you take your life matters seriously. If you are focused to have a good and balanced life, you really need to start thinking about limiting many things in your life for better.

Cheers,

 

M. Bilal Shaikh

10 ways to boost SELF CONFIDENCE!

10 ways to boost SELF CONFIDENCE! (The most common issue)

Self confidence is one of the promising problem among many people including young and old ones. It is in fact one of the tremendous aspects in discovering new bright ways in personality, milestones,education, professional jobs,etc.  It poses many questions like, “Can I do this myself?, Do I qualify for this or that?, Why I always have to suffer so long…why me?, Can I run this whole project?”.

Majority of people who suffer this chronic issue are victimized due to lack of trust in confessing their inside power and abilities that they possess, which, later causes in inferior complexity, resulting in major cause of lacking of self confidence.

Here, I will discuss some important points which may relief this problem.

1. Do what you want to do, esp. that you feel like you would never do it. Chase your goals. Don’t worry if people demotivate you but never lower your morale. Remember,running after your goals makes you a piece of pearl and legend

2. Old method but still gold: Stand before mirror and speak aloud to boost your potential and confidence, later, use it initially for small group of people.
3. Make your first appearance to initiate in public discussions or forums, provide smart chances to your fellows to get involved in discussions with you. It will boost your interacting power

4. All creatures pay attention to dynamic object. Try to stand for long time on stage and feel the stage to overcome your fear.Use your stage or place wisely, keep changing your position time to time, when you deliver your pitch or presentation.

5. Make your eye contact accurate and moving so that you can maintain your eye contact with many people around you.

7. Use your tone in effective way, it reflects your potential, personality and confidence. Remember, don’t bark, just talk with high and low notes or tones.

8. Make your reflexes of your hands, shoulders and face expression appealing according to need of the condition and topic. They really make sound impact on audience to keep focusing at you.

9. Never shy to express your opinion in public, your shyness sometimes kills your talent. Present your opinion with good examples and reasons

10. Trust your abilities that you possess, keep shining them. All those who told you that you couldn’t do it, show them you have done it!

KEERAY nikalnay wali KHALA! available everywhere for FREE!

KEERAY nikalnay wali KHALA (CRITICS)! available everywhere for FREE!
Learn how to treat them!

Last time, I discussed SAY NO TO JAN AND JANU STUFFS??? BUT WHY?, thanks for your appreciation & valuable feedback.

Now, here the topic is again interesting but  considering another group of people(boys or girls) who are well enough to demotivate us in pursuing our challenges, targets or goals  and I also expereinced such kind of people who really put bad remarks or critics for no good reason but they all could not let me down or any down once you start pursuing your passion or milestone but unfortunately many people do get hurt too badly by such kind of people and thus they stop dong or chasing their passions or targets just because of such ridiculous group of people or khalas.

As usual first check out the normal tags that you hear from the people when you do something good or smashing so some of the people in majority become the KHALA to find out the errs and lacking than to focus on the achievement or the content where they themselves have not even contributed much for their society in country. The tags or phrases are:
“O bhai bus pakao mat, bs bs chup hjao hmai pata hai how u got the position, kis kis k uthao gay…! suno zara ye banaingay Pakistan ko aik khush hal mulk apna to hal thek kia nai mulk ka kia karengay, He is making us fool huh!, Is he the only person to take whole  responsibility, aur koi kam nai hai,etc “

These sort of tags or teases you must have heard around at any stage of your life, their main job is to just critic for no good reason, you may call it as a piece of jealousy and tenderness that they can’t cop. They can neither do the GOOD nor they want anyone to do something good. For them, we may call it as, “Jo kuch nai kartay wo bs MUU k fire hy martay hain, wo jo kam karna chahatay hn wo chup chap apna kam kar jatay hain”. These people may seem to you well-dressed or well educated but they possess narrow thoughts and ideas which linger them to be in just small circle. The example below will completely change your mind to handle such people or KHALAs around you.

The lonely Frog’s success Story:
There were frogs by the river, challenged by the near-by birds to jump over the 10ft high wall, the frog with their over confidence accepted the challenge and divided in the number of 100 respectively. So, it was decided that first the 100 birds will cross the hurdle, so very simply,they did it with their flying skills but the real challenge alarmed for frogs, they asked frogs to give up and concede this match but frogs denied and started to take their chances, unfortunately, in first phase 50 frogs struck straight to the wall and push down by seeing the fear of FAILURE. Again, the leader of birds asked them to GIVE UP, but frogs denied, they continued to try but still failed up to 99. This was the do or die situation for the frogs and on the other side, it was the time for the near winning moments of birds to win the challenge.

The last frog was standing far away alone and was depth in great thoughts, they just whistled him to wake him up from his long thoughts and waved him to jump it all. All of sudden, he used his leaping skills and crossed/jumped the wall. The moment was full of surprise for all, the frogs were at the near gate of FAILURE where the birds were about to WIN the challenge but just because of ONE FROG, all conditions changed and frogs won the challenge.

The company of birds started to enjoy where the birds started to group near that winning  FROG standing near that wall. They were asking all together with different inspiring and critic remarks, “Wow,How you did that!?, Hey! You JUST fooled us!, How you could beat us?, tell us how you have done!,etc “but that frog was just listening and starring their faces. When the pressure grew and he didnt respond so they started to run thru the agony, in that very moment, the team leader of frogs came to them and said, “Hey, You all there, Don’t Shout, Listen to me! Don’t blame him, He just can’t listen, He is DEAF”, this answer made all birds speechless and ashamed, also it yields big lessons for us. Once you have the objective in your mind, just chase, don’t care what people say, they are meant to say and will be saying it all, all you got to do is to focus that’s it!!! 

So, this story can awake that instinct in you which can really motivate you when you begin with something new, be deaf when they lower your morale, confidence and motivation.

The moral of the discussion is that there are some best ways to cop such people or KHALAs in our society:

1.Never pay attention to their thoughts and ideas plus Keep adequate distance from them, they won’t influence you that much
2.You must possess good answers to shut them up OR be the DEAF FROG to avoid listening them
3.If you are simple,keeping no answer, just answer, “LIKEWISE”, it will simply return their every accuse to them
4.Be motivated and confident that you are doing for all not for them
5.Be sure, tomorrow they will be around you to appreciate you
6.Keep yourself motivated with a quote, “If people are jealous from you, be glad because you have that instinct that they done have”
7.Enjoy their critics in contrast with the Albert Einstein quote, “I am thankful to all those who said NO to because their every NO pushed me to do it all alone”
8. Always welcome the critics of those who provide you constructive opinions and they must have something remarkable in their lives to motivate.
9. Don’t even pay heed to those who just criticize for just criticism
10. Being a Critic & Umpire are very different persons. Be advised, the best critic can never be pessimist, he is always there to motivate personally not publicly.

meri graduation b hogai aur ab???

meri graduation b hogai aur ab???

jese e koi larka ya larki graduation kar k uni se pass out hota hai to aik larkay ki khuaish yei hoti hai k wo achi job hasil kar k apna ghar chalaye aur phr apni pyri si amma jan k smnay dulha bnjaye(by the way ye uski personal khuaish ziada hoti hai) aik larki usi flow mai hoti hai jo us k zehan mai mind set kia jata hai yehi waja hai k kuch job ko aur kuch marriage ko tarjeeh dayti hain

But haqiqat kuch aur hy hai q k ghulami ka touq jo angrez nai hmai tohfay mai dia hai us say jan churana koi assaaan kam nai hai yehi waja hai k sb graduates job ka wait kartay. Arey janab agar sub job k liye que hojaingay to business kon develop karega??? jb business nai hoga to job kese develop hongy??? Education never stops k hm business na karain even we can do both things in good way bat sirf soch aur kam karnay ki hai q k actions speak louder than words

in simple words, Life is all about creating & developing  your own chances, try yours but soon enough! Don’t earn degrees for qualification because a donkey cart rider can also have them, discover your capabilities and niche to find the INNER YOU!

Motivational Philosophy “Life if …on sea shore”

Life is full of surprises, every time, everyday and from every relation we learn a lot. From every sinking ship in sea and setting sun in west, there are many lessons for us to judge.
(Visualize) It is like standing alone on sea-shore with deep thoughts in mind reminding the past like playing old cassettes in a video recorder,smiling unintentionally on memorable memories with those fellows and making sighs by looking in sky-high and then closing the eyes by saying hoooooo…….(exhaling air through mouth)! hitting right feet waves on shore with power to go back in that time.
On other hand, walking along sea-shore with trembling deep feet in sands, with hands packed in pockets, walking with slow pace, moving like an actor recording for the sad video song shooting, with lips tapped tight and napping the head with guest-er (of NO) for what all what happened bad or ended in sorrow recently but at the same time by looking into the sky and thanking Almighty Lord for saving from all hazards, those awkward ones and mischievous people who could have caused more damage to your life-like a car crash on fast motorway.
In the end, turning away from the sea-side with reality revealed itself that one must be sincere, devoted and loyal to at least claim that I did my job at best but if results are contrary it is always better to drive alone than to keep fake person,friends or people who stab you right at your back at the time you may need most.
Such things never gonna make you weak but these incidents do happen to make you strong for someone or group of people you are gonna lead one day or who is looking your way so long but haven’t come across yet but it also tells that if you got lost in such lost and sad memories, your life could have been at end on sea-shore where from we just came from, may be by drowning into the sea unintentionally. But that was the only positivity because of that you left that sea of sadness alone, thanked Almighty Lord and returned back to life with real motivation and something new and inspiring in yourself
This happens in everyone life on this planet on some part of life which reveals we all are real mines of becoming that someone that world is looking for. We just have to realize ourselves how special and strong we all already are despite being alone or in group! Yeah! Because life is so soothing and motivating if it is understood deeply on sea-shore.