Do you really respect your partner’s priorities? by M Bilal Shaikh 2016 (Urdu/Hindi)

How to think positive in tough times – M. Bilal Shaikh – Audio Vine in Urdu/Hindi – 2016

 

M. Bilal Shaikh
Speaker l Trainer l Writer

 

Is it facebook or Fakebook?

Is it facebook or Fakebook?
Facebook has deteriorated our life styles and caged our mindsets!

 

The Cause and Effect

Almost every individual in this global village aged between 12-42 years old struggles between balancing his life in reality and at social media. Somehow, it is true that “Logout is the hardest button to click”.  We sit on the same floor but we remain in other worlds, we share parties and gathering together but we keep on using our cell phones, we visit natural sights and places but rather to feel it we get engaged in taking pictures and sharing them immediately on facebook so that others will come to know so they may either like or ignore. Rather doing something good for people, we get more engaged in colors of self-image or more like selfishness. Relationships, Life Style, Education, Psychology, Physiology and Motivation is badly disturbed by excessive usage of Facebook in recent time.

80% people confess that excessive usage of facebook impacts on relationships as well. Many couples’ engagements, marriages have been effected or broken due to pretending what are they are not or showing their inner mindset to others. It is also observed in many cases that people really don’t want to prolong with you if you un-friend them in any relationship.

It seems that we have prioritized the facebook more than our personal matters. It is not necessary to share everything on facebook as well as what your friend is up to, causing less love and more hate, less unity and more jealousy. I also learned that many people use facebook to kill time which has significant worth in life which shows that either they are broken, rotten or just free (No vision for life).

Like others, I have been influenced by this flare of facebook in past. In this blog, I have discussed issues, causes, treatment and precaution to keep a good balancing life, discovering yourself and being helpful for others than to ruin it in the trance of facebooking only.

 

Lessons from the Recent Past

I didn’t come to know about my other skills and instincts which were fading away if I hadn’t limited or abandoned facebook or boycott social media in recent time. Abandoning or less or justified usage of facebook has brought massive results overall in my life. I have learned my lessons and as social responsibility, I would like to share with all to propagate the word.

Well, in order to learn and diagnose why sometimes we are so lethargic and disoriented from actual vision of life, we really have to figure out what is wrong that causing hiatus in our personal and professional development by giving time and commitment to ourselves. I tried to treat and deal with it, started last year where the subject was I and other friends.
“If you can’t control your addiction of facebooking, it will lead you to certain psychological and physiological conditions i.e. personality disorder, low self esteem, complexity, severe health conditions, mood swings, etc”.
Since, I had over burdened routine and life style due to work, job, and friends circle with spending too much time on facebook and other social platforms. Thus, I usually used to say that 24 hours were quite less for me in execution of quality life and work so the solution was either I had to stretch 24 hours to 36 hours or improve my lifestyle.

It is known that in a day, average person spends 3-4 hours/day minimum on social media with or without purpose where keeping conversation in FB Messenger as well as Whatsapp in parallel. Anyways, the burden was so hot that I had to give up temporarily from all social media including Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for 1 month. Eventually, here the twist began, the day I left these platforms, the first thing I felt, it was like, “Free from massive burden”, my mind was relaxed and I was able to carry out my tasks, job and other social works more effectively. 24 hours were quite enough for me.

After 1 month observation of abandoning FB, I experienced positive change and I was happy with it but I thought to get connected with social world as one cannot lag behind in this fast moving era. So I activated it again, I was more careful in starting but within weeks, the FB had me again with almost old same routine. I am certain that it must have been happening to many people as facebook is so interactive and vast that it consumes much time.

After struggling with it for a month, I did the same, deactivated it again and this practice kept on going for at least 2 or 3 times. But this whole process left me to understand many things and need of being on social media all the time. It was like massive experience and worth learning for me so if we really want to make words into actions, at least we will have to limit our social platforms, otherwise our words will be just words!
“The usage of facebook without a concrete purpose is similar to taking medication without any direction of doctors, causing massive poison in body, sometimes it is irrecoverable”.

 

The Diagnosis & Operation

So what was the treatment? The treatment was lying within me; I asked myself few questions that everybody must ask to diagnose the issue:
a) How was my life when I was not using facebook?
b) Am I excessively indulged into FB world? If so, is there any need of it?
c) What’s my purpose or objective of using it? Professional or Business need or Chatting or Cheating.
d) Am I beneficial for the society and people on FB?
e) Do I feel happier to share things on facebook than sharing it in real time with my family and friends?
f) Do I really need to be connected all the time to the facebook or social media?
g) How many true friends I have earned, may be more than 500+ on social media but in reality?
h) Is it necessary to share everything on facebook, If so why?
i) Is it necessary to know everything (Stalking) about our friends by continuously looking into their profiles? If so why?
j) What if I spent same time in swimming, exercise, writing, studying or else, what benefits I could get?
k) What I exactly feel by seeing other successes and achievements, am I becoming victim of low self esteem and inferior complex or learning from them or being more jealous of what they have earned?
l) Do I really care about liking or commenting on friends’ achievements or events or I scroll it down, If so what does it exactly mean to me?
m) With continuous usage of facebook, what recent successes I have made in real world?

The  Treatment & Precautions

There are certain parameters if an individual follows, he may have good control over his routine and can initiate good life style. Also we have to understand that there are people who take advantage from fb in form of setting up business and other forums but in both cases, mediocre and safe usage is essential.

1. If there is no necessary need, uninstall fb from either your cell phones or laptop. Because keeping installed on both platforms engages you for so long. I personally manage my fb works only by laptop, uninstalling from cell phone has focused me to do some productive and good work like drafting this blog 🙂

2. For a common man who uses FB, should limit its usage by keeping hawk eyes on time. 1 hour is far enough in a day if it’s divided in 2 times of checking (morning & night)

3. Unlike and leave all unnecessary pages and group pages, you must be more concerned about yourself and what’s going on in your life. Rather following celebrity, start becoming a celebrity secondly, be the news than to read news.

4. Limit your friends on facebook, add only those to whom you know or trust because the more people you add, more you will be wandering to know. Time is money, use it wisely.

5. Rather poking and stalking into other profiles, focus on your profile, improve and develop in more meaning colors for yourself and for others. Be the helpful tool for society than to be a burden.

6. One of the smart usage of FB is serving others with right causes i.e. education, awareness campaigns, blogging, etc. Do something that gets positive and productive within yourself. Help people around you as it doesn’t need a reason to help anyone.

7. Start planning of virtual business via FB, FB is itself an online and virtual business, many brands have promoted their sales and profits via Fb so why don’t we take advantage of it. Smart brains take maximum advantage from free shops.

8. We must not forget that facebook was designed to connect with loved ones and old friends who are far away not in next room, few steps away or in offices. Care about your personal relations than your social world.
9. It is good to play physical games or sports or gym than to play games on consoles and Apps. Be fit, smart and productive for society.

10. Expand your vision of life, keeping yourself with people who believe in personal leadership, self development and have widened vision of life.

11. And in last, if you feel burdened, stressed and messed up, don’t forget there is always a choice to take a break either isolating or deactivating your FB Account and when you get better, you can activate it. Care about your health first!

Again, it is entirely upon you how you take your life matters seriously. If you are focused to have a good and balanced life, you really need to start thinking about limiting many things in your life for better.

Cheers,

 

M. Bilal Shaikh

Top 10 Mistakes, A FRESH GRADUATE Commits! Be-aware!!!

Top 10 Mistakes, A FRESH GRADUATE Commits! Be-aware!!!

Most of the candidates about 80 to 90% graduates pass their final examination with some spark of missing the  graduation life but they don’t know that their REAL TEST has just begun. Very few make their steps with perfection according to the demand of situation but due to lacking of career counseling, many of the graduate become wander for sometime and somehow they may face this expression in home, friends and in events:

So, plan fast and good so that you can save your time, degree, passion and of course your love otherwise you should be brave enough to let them go in a bunch. Well,  be aware about 10 common but TOP mistake that graduates commit. Here are those mistake that one should be careful that you must not repeat the same.

1. Not applying for further Studies, Scholarship or Apprentice Programs i.e. Post graduation or Masters, Direct PhD.

2. Becoming Over smart as he or she completed the degree but they don’t know that REAL TRAIL has just BEGUN,  lacking of furnishing CV is also the real cause in not getting good jobs.

3. Expecting too much for job at least for 1 year after passing final examination means most of the graduates waste their whole year  waiting for job but they could have done something else to utilize their time in other useful works.

4. Ignoring importance of (Volunteer) Internships. It is one of the most important aspect for fresh graduates,collect your experience by working anywhere related to your field, surely within 2 years, you will see the reward of your experience or volunteer work.

5. Expecting so high that you will be selected directly in  multi national company with no experience, it is one of the biggest misconception as big employers need experienced & social candidates to serve their company.

6. Thinking of getting married within one year (for girls), 2 years (for boys). It can be funny but it is the truth for Asian Region, plan for your career first so that you may lead a peaceful and constructive life.

7. Missing Career Counseling Session or conferences by thinking it’s just a waste of time. For all those who feel and believe that such sessions are just waste of time, to me, they have wasted their whole careers. Pay proper heed towards career counseling sessions to map your future nicely.

8. Not beginning any small or  part time business until a job is offered. Entrepreneurship is a natural built in software present in every single person, the only issue is to light that spark high with proper risk management. Entrepreneurship is the best solution of killing unemployment.

9. Becoming so nervous for at least two with thought: Don’t know what to do, (smj nai araha kia karu yaaaaaar!) Lacking of Confidence, Leadership and motivational Skills & no planning for future or A,B,C Plans. This is a real problem, having no back up plan causes many fatal errors in career management so best thing to do is to line up your goals and 5 years future planning with at least two or three back up plans.

10. Last but not least, having no practical faith in God and paying no attention to what’s written in sacred book is the main reason of worst conditions because what we seed is what we are going to get in near future. So, give top priority in learning religion with research being neutral, surely you will see your all things  adjusted perfectly. keep praying in good and bad times.

I do remember all the time that

“If you can’t find the opportunity in your society, it is not the fault of that society but it is your mistake that you failed to create opportunities for yourself”

We miss people, things and occasions due to our faults and mistakes, so make it perfect but first plan it best from your behalf.

10 ways to boost SELF CONFIDENCE!

10 ways to boost SELF CONFIDENCE! (The most common issue)

Self confidence is one of the promising problem among many people including young and old ones. It is in fact one of the tremendous aspects in discovering new bright ways in personality, milestones,education, professional jobs,etc.  It poses many questions like, “Can I do this myself?, Do I qualify for this or that?, Why I always have to suffer so long…why me?, Can I run this whole project?”.

Majority of people who suffer this chronic issue are victimized due to lack of trust in confessing their inside power and abilities that they possess, which, later causes in inferior complexity, resulting in major cause of lacking of self confidence.

Here, I will discuss some important points which may relief this problem.

1. Do what you want to do, esp. that you feel like you would never do it. Chase your goals. Don’t worry if people demotivate you but never lower your morale. Remember,running after your goals makes you a piece of pearl and legend

2. Old method but still gold: Stand before mirror and speak aloud to boost your potential and confidence, later, use it initially for small group of people.
3. Make your first appearance to initiate in public discussions or forums, provide smart chances to your fellows to get involved in discussions with you. It will boost your interacting power

4. All creatures pay attention to dynamic object. Try to stand for long time on stage and feel the stage to overcome your fear.Use your stage or place wisely, keep changing your position time to time, when you deliver your pitch or presentation.

5. Make your eye contact accurate and moving so that you can maintain your eye contact with many people around you.

7. Use your tone in effective way, it reflects your potential, personality and confidence. Remember, don’t bark, just talk with high and low notes or tones.

8. Make your reflexes of your hands, shoulders and face expression appealing according to need of the condition and topic. They really make sound impact on audience to keep focusing at you.

9. Never shy to express your opinion in public, your shyness sometimes kills your talent. Present your opinion with good examples and reasons

10. Trust your abilities that you possess, keep shining them. All those who told you that you couldn’t do it, show them you have done it!

Part II: say NO to Jan & Janu stuff, par Q???

Thanks for liking the reality  of first part of “Say no to jan and janu stuff… par Q?”.

Now here, I will discuss some other faces of reality in the  same  way as  did it in prevous post

https://mbilalshaikh.wordpress.com/2012/11/05/say-no-to-jan-janu-stuff-par-q/

“Aik khushi ki khabar sunai di thy but wo b bhi block hogai k PTA would block all  late night packages of calls and sms which was appreciated by most of the youngster, despite the fact their jan, jani and janu things will be disturbed more but they appreciated at least the right things!” though by banning such offers will benefit our youth to save more time and efforts to do right things.

Love is so powerful no doubt about chahay abba ka ho ya amma ka, bhai ka ho ya ahm ahm ka, it is one of the locking power to lock you within it circle, but abba amma, chacha mama, sb ka love to gaya side mai ab to it is all about RANI’s love lol well it is the fact!

Imagine, in beginning, the feeling about any relationship goes like this:

Love dreams in beginning

haye haye! twinkling twinkling little stars! well,  sorry, it is  little hearts lol 😀  but with passage of time, when they end, conditions go so tough like this

this is the end, o teri khair!

“kash aisa nai hota!!, kash! saali wo mili hy nai hoti kbi mje, mje kia pata tha wo aisa niklayga…..:s :(, saray larkay aik jese hotay hn….dash kahin k ….!!!, jo apnay baap se sachi nai hosaki wo tum se kia sachi hogy, u know us ka dil bhar gaya tha mujse, blah blah blah”, reported by many youngsters.
Well, resuming to the hot issues, one of the critical things people waste in such activities is TIME! which is surely the key part in life! Engaging in wrong activities kills your hidden talent, suffocates your personality, germs your skills and at most YOU regret it when you miss the right time like true phrases mentioned above.
But in the end, focusing on only your love causes many hazards. You never know it effects your entrepreneur skills that you can build just after the matriculation but hamra shehzada to Nokia, iphone, htc and q mobile  mai ABC packages k sath apni jan, jani and janu k sath masroof hotay hn

Most of the youngsters after intermediate and graduation cry aloud for jOBs and money! q k jin se relationship thay ya thy unki to ab shadia horai hn aur mausuf bs beth kar sirf dekh hy sktay hn phr aik dam phr kahayal ata h k kash kuch saving ki hoti koi chota mota kam hy kia hota to help in rainy day! but now what it is worth for!!! So think back to see all good gifts that Allah has bestowed and don’t ruin yourself with those things which are totally illegal because what Allah has forbidden can never bring joy to your life!

And one of the strangest fact that all people observe in their life esp at teenage that to inspire girls or friends with some attitude problem on their profile pics or statuses.

“Mr. Attitude bannay k chakkar mai log apna aim and target hy bhul jatay hn :(“

Save your time

The moral of the discuss is to awake your Entrepreneur Skills at early eases your many financial issues and relieves many responsibility at early age because unfortunately now people place more worth for wealthy ones which is a complete disaster. But anyways, focusing at aims and targets can lead any girl or boy to horizon of success where he or she will surely find his or her true jan and janu at right time, the only problem with success is: PATIENCE, CONSISTENCY and HARDWORKING with utter belief in Allah for your success.

People will hinder and push your legs down but remember it is YOU who is going to make a difference, never forget test always begins when time is tough. And you can reach your goals with smart efforts in short time.

PART II: Can you be the Motivational/Public Speaker OR Organizational Trainer?(the comprehensive practical Approach)

Earlier, we discussed some emphatic points in renovating anyone to be the key note speaker for Organization or Public Speaking in the post: https://mbilalshaikh.wordpress.com/2012/11/02/can-you-be-the-motivationalpublic-speaker-or-organizational-trainerthe-comprehensive-practical-approcach-part-i/

ATTENTION CAPTIVATOR

However, let’s explore additional factors which are concrete enough to mobilize your skills up to the mark and standards. One of the critical skill is ATTENTION CAPTIVATOR. This ability is very important and at high demand able in public or organizational speaking, it reveals how well you really are in grabbing the attention of the masses. Your this skill can really make a great impact in presenting your presentation. Personally, I always feel easy to deliver with my own natural style, tone, with ting or big experiences of common life. I do believe that real life examples impacts a huge impression on the audience to gain their attention. The time you instruct them like school teacher, it may impose some negative points because they are not there to listen their TEACHER again like High School. So, you must present the juice of your experience in such a polite, emotional, soft and jolly way that it does gain the attention with the intention of curiosity. You must have observed that some speakers/trainers use the SUCCESS/MORAL STORIES of different people or themselves, activities and presentations to catch the attention of attendees which somehow is successful expedition but captivating  with your tongue without any help is such a big deal to be unique from others.

It is a fact that GRABBING the attention may be the natural or God-gifted ability but I do believe everyone has it, it is the way you recognize and polish this ability.

Question arises that how can we estimate or build this important factor! Simple answer can be, observe the power of influence you have on the people around you that you may justify by your thoughts, ideas and reasons you deliver. After knowing and understanding your intensity, you can judge your inner abilities to be attention captivator.

In more simple way, You are like the audionic speaker, the way you BEAT is going to impact on the masses to be CONNECTED with you. The time you perfectly CONNECTED with your attendees is the time for you to rise. Attention Captivator is the skill ability that everyone must learn to justify their thoughts in sophisticated way. But during this process, one must care very sound attention on:
Your Content with style of presentation,
Words fluency,
Interesting Examples or Experiences
Guest-er, face expressions

In next post, will discuss the other relevant factors. Do share your response.

7 Magical spells of SELF-BELIEVE (Self- Confidence)

Why SELF BELIEVE?

Most of the people in world complain about the life and lack of opportunity by imposing some excuses which they do know are not worthy to talk about. The failures usually give up since they never know how to explore the insights of SELF BELIEVE in them, if there are 6 Billion people are living on planet then every person has the POWER of SELF-BELIEVE or SELF- CONFIDENCE, it is just all about knowing it because every individual in this world has the special instinct which he or she never came to know because unfortunately he or she never got enough time for him/herself.  Science also believes that lacking of Self Believe is one of the most crucial aspect in the minds of failures, however, this disease is not ever lasting, one can easily recover it with proper understanding, sessions or lectures to introduce remarkable glories of life and success in life.

Magic of SELF BELIEVE

Self Believe or Self-Confidence reveals another sparkling & prominent chapter of your mind, personality and life that you hardly explore before in your personality. It not only nourishes your personality, communication skills and interacting power with the people to influence them but it guides you how to chase your goals of life. But, over dosage of it can cause serious problems to anyone’s mind sets, studies have proved that people sometimes become over smart with their abilities which is also the key figure for their failures. But being optimistic, one should keep the brightest sparks about life, Self-Believing and Self-Confidence. Let’s explore what you may get in handy when you really adopt it

The top 7 magical SPELLS of Self-believe:

1. You never depend on ANYONE for your SUCCESS, you rather become an example for others’ success

2. You start to enjoy the company of your COMPETITORS than to feel jealousy or annoyance, because you start to believe that your RIVALS are going to give some lesson for your SUCCESS.

3. Self-Believe is what, makes you UNIQUE INDIVIDUAL around your circle or in crowd.

4. You worry not about finding opportunity but CREATING new opportunities for OTHERS as well.

5. You always say HELLO & HI to tough calls or challenges with no worries, you actually start to believe in your abilities and that special instinct that God has bestowed in YOU.

6. You wave GOOD BYE to all NEGATIVE perceptions and grow with POSITIVE thoughts which certainly become enduring for your existence and personality.

7. Indeed, You can be one of prominent Risk Taker, Success Coach or Inspiring Trainer/Instructor.

All it takes is just Self Believe and Self-Confidence to put a check on your inner abilities

Now ,it depends on YOU that how you believe, do or wear it. You are never short of opportunities but lacking POWER of SELF-BELIEVE or SELF-CONFIDENCE.

KEERAY nikalnay wali KHALA! available everywhere for FREE!

KEERAY nikalnay wali KHALA (CRITICS)! available everywhere for FREE!
Learn how to treat them!

Last time, I discussed SAY NO TO JAN AND JANU STUFFS??? BUT WHY?, thanks for your appreciation & valuable feedback.

Now, here the topic is again interesting but  considering another group of people(boys or girls) who are well enough to demotivate us in pursuing our challenges, targets or goals  and I also expereinced such kind of people who really put bad remarks or critics for no good reason but they all could not let me down or any down once you start pursuing your passion or milestone but unfortunately many people do get hurt too badly by such kind of people and thus they stop dong or chasing their passions or targets just because of such ridiculous group of people or khalas.

As usual first check out the normal tags that you hear from the people when you do something good or smashing so some of the people in majority become the KHALA to find out the errs and lacking than to focus on the achievement or the content where they themselves have not even contributed much for their society in country. The tags or phrases are:
“O bhai bus pakao mat, bs bs chup hjao hmai pata hai how u got the position, kis kis k uthao gay…! suno zara ye banaingay Pakistan ko aik khush hal mulk apna to hal thek kia nai mulk ka kia karengay, He is making us fool huh!, Is he the only person to take whole  responsibility, aur koi kam nai hai,etc “

These sort of tags or teases you must have heard around at any stage of your life, their main job is to just critic for no good reason, you may call it as a piece of jealousy and tenderness that they can’t cop. They can neither do the GOOD nor they want anyone to do something good. For them, we may call it as, “Jo kuch nai kartay wo bs MUU k fire hy martay hain, wo jo kam karna chahatay hn wo chup chap apna kam kar jatay hain”. These people may seem to you well-dressed or well educated but they possess narrow thoughts and ideas which linger them to be in just small circle. The example below will completely change your mind to handle such people or KHALAs around you.

The lonely Frog’s success Story:
There were frogs by the river, challenged by the near-by birds to jump over the 10ft high wall, the frog with their over confidence accepted the challenge and divided in the number of 100 respectively. So, it was decided that first the 100 birds will cross the hurdle, so very simply,they did it with their flying skills but the real challenge alarmed for frogs, they asked frogs to give up and concede this match but frogs denied and started to take their chances, unfortunately, in first phase 50 frogs struck straight to the wall and push down by seeing the fear of FAILURE. Again, the leader of birds asked them to GIVE UP, but frogs denied, they continued to try but still failed up to 99. This was the do or die situation for the frogs and on the other side, it was the time for the near winning moments of birds to win the challenge.

The last frog was standing far away alone and was depth in great thoughts, they just whistled him to wake him up from his long thoughts and waved him to jump it all. All of sudden, he used his leaping skills and crossed/jumped the wall. The moment was full of surprise for all, the frogs were at the near gate of FAILURE where the birds were about to WIN the challenge but just because of ONE FROG, all conditions changed and frogs won the challenge.

The company of birds started to enjoy where the birds started to group near that winning  FROG standing near that wall. They were asking all together with different inspiring and critic remarks, “Wow,How you did that!?, Hey! You JUST fooled us!, How you could beat us?, tell us how you have done!,etc “but that frog was just listening and starring their faces. When the pressure grew and he didnt respond so they started to run thru the agony, in that very moment, the team leader of frogs came to them and said, “Hey, You all there, Don’t Shout, Listen to me! Don’t blame him, He just can’t listen, He is DEAF”, this answer made all birds speechless and ashamed, also it yields big lessons for us. Once you have the objective in your mind, just chase, don’t care what people say, they are meant to say and will be saying it all, all you got to do is to focus that’s it!!! 

So, this story can awake that instinct in you which can really motivate you when you begin with something new, be deaf when they lower your morale, confidence and motivation.

The moral of the discussion is that there are some best ways to cop such people or KHALAs in our society:

1.Never pay attention to their thoughts and ideas plus Keep adequate distance from them, they won’t influence you that much
2.You must possess good answers to shut them up OR be the DEAF FROG to avoid listening them
3.If you are simple,keeping no answer, just answer, “LIKEWISE”, it will simply return their every accuse to them
4.Be motivated and confident that you are doing for all not for them
5.Be sure, tomorrow they will be around you to appreciate you
6.Keep yourself motivated with a quote, “If people are jealous from you, be glad because you have that instinct that they done have”
7.Enjoy their critics in contrast with the Albert Einstein quote, “I am thankful to all those who said NO to because their every NO pushed me to do it all alone”
8. Always welcome the critics of those who provide you constructive opinions and they must have something remarkable in their lives to motivate.
9. Don’t even pay heed to those who just criticize for just criticism
10. Being a Critic & Umpire are very different persons. Be advised, the best critic can never be pessimist, he is always there to motivate personally not publicly.

say NO to Jan & Janu stuff, par Q???

say NO to Jan & Janu stuff, par Q???

Content Language:English + Urdu (Bi-Language)

Some people waste or utilize their energies in different works or activities, some do something constructive where others do something that I will begin this with urdu quotes: “Agar ap kisi teenage boy ya girl ka phone check karain to u will 90% find k waha bs locked msgs mai 99% jan n janu ki stories hy chal rahi hongy (baki baten censored hn), subha se sham tak texts and  raat se subha just calls woto thanks to PTA k ab calls k packages to end hoye”.

But when you meet them after few months or years, they say like: “Yar topi thy wo, he was so selfish and mean aisa wese balah blah, us k to aur b boyfriends hain :s, im leaving u b/c of parents, family,etc, wo aisa to nai tha, aur sb se fav dialogue, tm meri nai to kisi ki nai but ye baton ki had tk rehta hai aksar” Q?? read the remaining post

Issue is not about saying JAN or JANU to ur loved ones, but troubles are for both sides, according to scientific research BOYS are like single Core Computer who can focus on one thing at a time so they barely focus on Time, Career and other important things in life when they are involved serious activities “yehi waja hai k Graduation k bad jobs ka rona bht hota hai jb k jobs to hain but sincere finders are not available :(, If boys take their responsibilities to unhain us janu ki shadi mai tent lagana na parain n na hy bad mai Mamu Mamu k teasing words sunnay ko milain, it is the fact 🙂 :P”

Science says that Girls can do act as Double Processors, can tackle various missions in their during their life so they can take success over boys by keeping them in real darkness of psychology.  But girls are more disturbed by the over changing ability of boys so they sometimes feel like are they meant for one guy or more ones or public property, indeed it is a great dilemma but sadly, it all happens due to their lacking, lack of sight and thinking they can easily overcome. But girls are still successful in finding the good results in education and jobs, i know what boys are gonna comment that how they get but honestly it is not because of that but it is due to the wise use of words, personality, talent and of course lifestyle.

Usually after the beginning of any love story almost all girls start dreaming about marriage without knowing the real intentions of the front party and somehow many ones loose their precious gifts unfortunately , anyways, Nikah is the connecting people device that we all must adopt, it is the best protection for girls in this society otherwise you can also be the same victim. Where, some good boys study to have their dream girl but due to the social issues they can’t and thus they have to give up, they must know there is NO GIVE UP thing in life, it is all about planning, executing and acting as wise and clever to get best jobs, your dream girl and life’s bounting.

Presently, to limit the relation is the key issue, 75% Boys /girls of Pakistan study to fulfill their dreams, their families expectations, marry a good girl/boy and lead good life but somehow due to non-seriousness  and lack of motivation, confidence, hand to mouth JOB slavery, GF/BFs issues, bad gathering and short visions cause many terrible issues in prospering the futures of many YOUNG ones but still Pakistan is in 16th Happiest nations of world means there is much room for guys to do something beyond JOBS, they can create the JOBS by arranging some good businesses for themselves and others and so they can get their JAN or JANU in effective rather to break up or loose relations due to these reasons mentioned, because relationships is itself a big topic to discuss, will be posting about it soon.

However, moral of the story: is nowadays these JAN or JANU are the part of the plan of International Conspiracy to ruin YOUTH of PAKISTAN to make them involved in the trauma of love stories by lowering the rates of call and sms because this is one of the emotional aspect of life that they can’t leave easily thus they can remain as the slave than to develop something new and creative, so don’t ruin your life and talent that you possess so be clever against what is planned against you. Not saying turn out what you have but be oriented to be together and plan like that to become ONE than to cheat because if boys cheat good ones they may face some dilemmas  in near future and likewise for girls. Support NIKAH which connects people permanently and be focused whatever you want in your life. Also, real issue for YOUTH for coping  the unemployment issues, run your talented minds and get what you want by arranging new opportunities for all.